Why we shout in anger?

A professor was teaching about anger; he asked his students, "Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset? The students thought for a while. One of them said, we shout because we lose our calm. "But why shout when the other person is just next to you?" asked the professor. "Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?" The students gave some other answers but none satisfied the professor. Finally he explained, "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts psychologically distance themselves. To cover the distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other.

The angrier they are, the stronger they will shout to hear each other through that great distance. Then the professor asked, "What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? It is because their hearts are psychologically knitted. The distance between them is very short. The professor continued, "And when they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they even get even closer to each other in their love.

Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all....

So next time you shout at a loved one or a colleague, know that you are creating distance between your heart and that person's heart. The true test of growth in your life is not always found in what you say, but in what you choose NOT to say. Even though you might have every "right" to respond harshly to someone who has wronged or offended you (personally or professionally), remember the big picture and this whole story.

How many times have you been spared in spite of your mistakes and imperfections? Grace enabled us to see each day. Reflect on that and don't take things for granted in your life. In appreciation for all that you have been given, choose to give up your right to hold an offense or debt against others. Your capacity to thrive and the grandeur of your life's legacy will be a direct reflection of your ability to forgive and forget.

"Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget".